Hey there, this is my first time posting, though I’ve read the stories on here for probably a year or more. I’m not actually married yet, but wanted to ask for some advice from people in mature marriages and also perhaps from any engaged or newlyweds who might have some insight into what I’m dealing with.
relationship advice -Engaged girl advice
See, I’m engaged to a most wonderful man, who thinks I’m the sweetest, best, most beautiful thing in the world, who’s heart goes pitter-pat when we kiss, who is incredibly excited about marrying me and spending the rest of his life with me. And, up until a few weeks ago, I thought myself very much in love with him. What changed? I don’t know. But I realized that I am not ecstatic about getting married like he is, I don’t really feel anything anymore when he kisses me, and I’m more excited about going places on our honeymoon than I am about having sex with him on our wedding night.
I’m not excited about having sex for the first time. Something doesn’t seem right.
Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not asking whether or not anyone thinks I should stay with him. Love is a choice, and I’ve chosen him. I will do whatever it takes to make our marriage work, and keep the spark in our relationship. But please, I need suggestions on how to get that spark back. I want those butterflies back when he touches me. I want to want him like I used to, to be hardly able to wait until our wedding night.
If anyone here has experienced anything like this and has any suggestions, they would be most welcome. He and I have spoken about this, and we are both committed to making this work and helping me get back those few feelings.
Thank you all in advance